Dear Prospective Surrogate,

First and foremost, thank you so much for your wonderful heart and offering to do this act of kindness for another family! Whether we end up being a good match or not, we still thank you for even considering us!

We are J and J and we are both from California. Funny enough, we grew up only 15 minutes away from each other, but met in Los Angeles. We met in college at a frat party – I know, such a romantic meet cute. J was not in the frat or even went to my school, but was visiting his friend from high school for the night of the party. J called me names and said my taste in music was terrible, but clearly the guy was smitten as you only pick on the ones you like. In all seriousness, it was love at first sight from both sides and we have been together ever since that night. 18 years together and married for almost 10!

It’s sappy to say, but our absolute favorite hobby is spending time together. Both of our love languages are quality time. Our close second hobby is traveling whenever we can, even if that is just a staycation to a nearby city to feel like we are getting away. When we aren’t out and about, we are homebodies and love to spend time with friends and family. Our family means the world to us and we eat dinner with my parents at least once or twice a week. We are also big foodies and can talk about food and cooking for literal hours. Our favorites are Italian, Mexican, and BBQ! J makes amazing restaurant quality southern biscuits and ribs, just to name one of his classics, and we are constantly trying new recipes together. While J is talented in the kitchen with his final dish, I call him the Swedish chef (from the Muppets) because food goes everywhere and it’s a full on cleanup after each meal when he cooks. Thankfully the food is so good it is worth it!

Personality wise, we are actually total opposites! When we met in college, I was studying biology and my classes were incredibly difficult. I studied most hours of my days. Meanwhile, J was a free spirited film student and basically watched movies all day. But J’s flexible schedule allowed him to drive up to spend time with me even if it meant watching me study during most of our date nights. I definitely have more of a mathematical mind and J is the creative soul. So while we are polar opposites in many ways, we have the same sense of humor and easy going demeanor as well as the same goals and dreams in life, which is what drew us to each other. Our similarities and differences are what make us such a great team! Most of our friends and family say the same thing, that I bring J back down to reality and he lifts me into the clouds with spontaneity; it really is such an amazing partnership.

Unfortunately, our long road to starting our family has been nothing short of a nightmare. It’s quite surreal still to think that this is our life and we constantly grieve the life we have been dreaming about for so long. This road has been paved with a lot of heartache as we have had several miscarriages, many failed transfers, diagnosis of endometriosis, blood clotting disorders, and immune issues, major surgeries, and the devastating feeling of hopelessness of never possibly having a family of our own.

All this has led us to the path of needing surrogacy to bring our first child into this world, but we are so hopeful that this journey will lead us to our rainbow through the storm! We know we will be amazing parents. We are very patient and supportive, but also love to have fun because we are kids at heart!

We are looking for a surrogate to have a great relationship with throughout the whole journey and after! To be totally honest, we never thought this would be our path to parenthood, but we are trying to look at this whole situation in a positive light. Not only will we be getting our first child that we have always dreamed of brought safely into this world, but we will forever be connected with another family because of this journey and that is truly something special that many will never experience!

Thank you again for considering us! We hope to chat with you and your family soon!

With love and hope,

J and J